Definition of gratitude
Gratitude is defined as:
“The quality of being thankful; readiness to show appreciation for and to return kindness”.
True gratitude is deep, meaningful and long lasting. It goes far beyond the appreciation you may feel for a new car or handbag that quickly stops being new so you soon stop appreciating it.
Most religions, including Buddhism, advocate being grateful for your lot.
People who are high achievers often focus on what they are aiming for, achieve it, feel good momentarily, then immediately set off towards their next goal. They are never satisfied and always aiming for something that hasn’t yet happened: if you identify with that, I hope you’ll find these ideas particularly helpful.
Having a strong desire to achieve can help you be very successful; but if it’s not balanced it could put you at risk of burnout.
I see clients who are incredibly hard-working. They push themselves to be successful in their career and their life, but some don’t notice (or ignore it) when they feel tired and unwell, and end up functioning less than their best. This article looks at what you can do to recognise the warning signs, and maintain optimal health and performance.
Whatever you are trying to achieve, making progress naturally includes making mistakes. So it’s important to celebrate ‘failure’, and reframe it as ‘learning’ and a healthy part of living a full life.
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
Thomas A. Edison
This article builds on last month’s article How your mindset can enable or limit you.
Mindset is a key factor in informing your outlook and decision-making, and operates at the individual, team and organisational level. We explore this idea below, and explain how your mindset can enable rather than limit you. This issue links to my recent article on growth and fixed mindset: How to sustain change.
I recently attended a training course about neuroscience, and learnt more about what happens in the brain and how it impacts performance at work. I also keep coming across research and articles on this subject so it feels topical – this issue therefore summarises some of the fundamentals of the structure of the brain and its effect on our emotions and behaviour.
More than ever before, collaboration is encouraged to ensure the best thinking comes through and that organisations create an environment that enables people to fulfil their potential. That’s why this month’s issue looks at how to collaborate effectively in the workplace, giving you both theory and practical suggestions for you to apply.
This month’s article is all about your personal brand. Don’t think of yourself as an employee of the company you work for; imagine you are the CEO of yourself! Read on to understand why a personal brand is a good thing to have and how to establish yours.
This month we deal with the difficult topic of addressing conflict through conversation. For example, do you:
Q. Have an issue in a relationship (at work or home) that is troubling you?
Q. Have too much work to do but don’t know how to tell your boss?
Q. Need to partner with someone on a project, but you fundamentally disagree about how to run it?
If so, you need to have a courageous conversation – a conversation where you express your true feelings and speak about the issues in order to resolve them. This article provides some thoughts and tips to help you.
The start of a new year is often a good time to reflect on the year just gone, and to plan for the year ahead.
What did you accomplish in 2014?
What do you wish you had accomplished?
What do you hope to accomplish in 2015?
It’s useful to analyse why you were able to achieve some things, and what stopped you from achieving others. Maybe things happened that were out of your control. But many people find they are blocked by fear, procrastination or lack of self belief.
This newsletter focuses on the internal blocks that prevent you from achieving what you want. By identifying and working through them, you can gain the courage to step outside your comfort zone, and set yourself up for a successful and fulfilling 2015.